Today I want to talk to you about sleep and some of the challenges you may be having with getting a good night’s rest. The world is challenged right now- that’s an understatement, right?
And naturally, this can trigger us to worry or to end up in a state of what we call in the hypnosis world- of “overload” and this can cause us to wake up in the night-or, to have trouble falling a sleep or both. So, it’s important to reach for an effective tool in that moment- rather than fall into that spinning of the mind and worrying…
So, if you think about your brain, it never goes to sleep at night- it just changes it’s job. And, In the middle of the night- we don’t have the same cognitive facility: our brain is switching out of one function, and into another. So what it is doing at night is assessing information, projecting for what might be coming- so, pre-cognitive dreams and processing and then finally, the releasing and emptying/processing phase- or the venting phase.
So, when you wake up out of this state or from one of these states, your mode of thinking and cognition is not instantly back to how it functions during your day – where you have the higher cognitive functions so, it’s in more of a processing function.
And stored subconscious exaggerated fears and phobic conditioning will appear to us in that exaggerated form if we have awakened at this time of course- because we are processing that. So, if you find your sleep is being disrupted- whether it’s difficulty with falling asleep or waking up in the night as I described- what can you do? You can reach for a tool like progressive relaxation combined with a specific breathing pattern: In one of my other videos, I showed you how you can instantly calm the nervous system with a simple breath pattern of 3,3,6. Simply inhale calm for 3 counts, hold and absorb the calming breath for 3 counts and then, a slow and controlled exhale for 6 counts.
And, when you combine this with the progressive relaxation, and you engage the 3,3,6 breath pattern at each body part as you move through the body- this can be a very effective tool to quickly change your state- into a calm state, taking you out of your thinking, and triggering that parasympathetic nervous system, the calming system, and allowing you to enter that healthy sleep cycle once again.
Ultimately, adding a tool like hypnosis is going to be most effective, after all, the hypnoidal state is that last state of consciousness we pass through on the way to sleep- and so, in working with a hypnotherapist one on one, not only can we get to the root cause of what that disturbance is that is manifesting in your disrupted sleep- we can recondition you to become suggestible once again, to that hypnoidal state &, we can effectively help you to unburden the emotional disruption because like that final stage of sleep- hypnosis is a venting state and so we encourage this venting of negative experiences and emotions that then allow you to return to that healthy sleep cycle and the happier, healthier more balanced state of well -being over all. Finally, we can design a sleep recording that is specifically tailored for you and your needs that you can then listen to on your own to support you on your return to that healthy sleep cycle.
Today I’m going to talk about working with artists and performers- specifically, and, what is it I can do to help you.
First, we look at: what are the common things that go on in a person that get in their way. And, what do you want to manifest and what is getting in your way?
Consider the Creative flow: I help people to recognize their creativity and their value and to step into the flow, to get out of thinking and into emotional expression. The creative flow: What is it? It’s Those moments when you almost effortlessly find yourself allowing inspiration to move through you.
For some people this about: stopping over thinking or, being easily distracted. It’s about allowing those moments to be more common by recognizing that they exist within you.
For some people, it’s about connecting with some higher self or, a connection that is spiritual in nature. And, for some people, it’s simply about turning down the noise in their thinking and turning up a kind of warmth in their emotion.
Recognize that usually, when we are not in the flow, it’s because we are in a state that is incongruent with that. And there may be some subconscious conditioning or doubts or fears that get in the way- that don’t relate to truth, but relate to some programing that doesn’t serve you.
So, let’s work on serving you- and serving what’s in your best interest which is the expression of this creativity which is this flow state- which is- experiencing it more and more often with comfort, which then allows you to recreate that state more and more comfortably and consistently which is the wonderful help that I love to bring to people who are creative!
Let’s dig a little deeper: let’s find out:
What are the common things that go on in a person that get in their way: As with productivity and confidence- depending on the individual- if it’s a writer, it’s consistency in writing, with actors- it may be confidence in an audition, with musicians- it’s the flow of the song writing, or confidence in performance. So, we find out where people get in their own way- and then we provide a solution or an answer.
And to find out more information, check out my individual and group coaching programs online!
Do you struggle with creating consistent structure and reasonable routine so that you are more productive in your life as an artist? Most creative people know that they should, but they don’t know how. Whether you’ve established yourself already as a working artist- an actor, writer, musician, dancer, painter etc., or are ready to step into your creative career, this blog is for you!
One thing creative people need to know is: to not look outside of ourselves for validation whether it’s with your writing, painting, music or acting, or any other creative endeavor. And, at the same time, when that positive feedback comes along and when opportunity arrives, you’ll want to be ready, and be able to receive it!
Often, the biggest challenge creative artists face is with making that commitment to a reasonable routine in order to support their artistic practice. There are so many reasons that having a supportive routine is important for you and will benefit you. For many artists, your body is your instrument. As it is for an actor, or a musician, for example: consider the fact that you can learn to focus on creating a routine where the things that you are doing are fundamentally supporting you and building you up. So, engaging those things that we know will do that or have the capacity to do that. For example, engaging in what I like to call the fundamentals: that’s a healthy sleep cycle, a healthy balanced diet that enables you to keep the fuel in your system balanced and therefore regulate anxiety for some of you who are prone to that. Or, engaging stress management tools such as a breathing exercise anytime you feel stress or anxiety. What a great opportunity for you to connect into your power, your value, through writing or acting, or through whatever your artistic practice is by being committed and consistent with a structure, knowing where those windows of time are on your schedule for spontaneity, work for your art. Because this is about learning to commit to it more effortlessly and effectively.
So, being consistent with these fundamentals is key to your success, not mention your health and well-being. We can perhaps get away with that structureless approach of having no set artistic practice early on in our career or, for a brief period of time, but what about now, as you are pursuing your art as your career? Time and time again, I have found in my own practice in working with artists that the real root of this block to a consistent artistic practice, with a schedule and a reasonable routine, is self-doubt, doubt in your ability or in your talent. And, in not being free enough to allow your creativity to come through, because doubt becomes the insulator that insulates us from it. The only way to see what blocks are there and what they are about- is to face them, build awareness, and engage tools that can connect you back into the truth, an empowered truth. Engage this reasonable routine and give it one week, see how you can actually create more quality time for spontaneity. Once you have scheduled the important things in your life that must get completed, just think how much more rewarding time spent in your garden, for example, or, with loved ones will be once you have that empowered sense of accomplishment from your creative work in a meaningful way with a plan to publish or, exhibit your work.
Engaging a structure can pull you out of sabotage mode because, by not having structure you might choose to do something unrelated to your creativity because you are blocking it and therefore you’re not moving forward and becoming more confident and effective at creating your art. In the book by Melissa Donovan, “Adventures in writing, 10 core practices for better writing,” the author shares valuable insight into the destructive myths about creativity that persist for writers and within the writing process. Donovan states, “Some people believe that creativity makes a divine appearance only when they are supposed to create, and the rest of the time, they shouldn’t bother.” In that myth of having no routine, we see artists relying on “divine” inspiration. The college screenwriting class comes to mind or, the truly bad habits of some beat poets touted as the myths of suffering or the need for misery in order to create. Many writers for example, have had those marathon writing sessions that were most likely motivated by a looming deadline that eventually bore fruit. But deep down you know the quality of that at least on some level is less than what you are truly capable of. And consider the impact that has on other aspects of your life such as relationships, or to your basic health and the quality of your sleep, perhaps.
Crediting our sense of free will, Donovan asserts, “We can learn to control our own creativity.” I was struck by this quote because, when you consider a subconscious therapy like hypnosis, and you understand that hypnosis is a learning state, you realize you can affect in a positive way, these associative learnings and therefore begin to learn and unlearn. Specifically, the conflicts that we experience, or the “blocks” exist in this other, deeper part of the mind that we are able to access through hypnosis. Let’s take a deeper look at what you can do to go about changing these learned habits and limiting beliefs that block you from your true creative flow. These are limiting beliefs and ideas that you learned at a certain point in your life and from your subconscious mind, and this is what may be keeping you locked up from your full creative potential and recognizing your value as an artist. You learned those ways of thinking and feeling, those limitations, and you can unlearn them. So, with the conscious understanding, now you can work to resolve the potential blocks that exist on the subconscious level where the new consistency and schedule becomes your new habit. And, as Donovan so aptly states, “The truths about creativity are far more interesting and useful than the myths.” The truth is, that creativity can be a habit and learning to control that habit becomes your empowerment.
Part of creating new habits is setting new intentions. You can even set an intention for kindness where your internal thoughts go from overly perfectionistic and critical to a kinder and more reasonable tone. I like to do intentional writing in the mornings to set up myself up for success for the day. An example intention might be: “I am setting a clear, positive and empowered intention to break old cycles and step into a calm energized and empowered life.” You could base this writing on the myths you may want to replace. If you have the “starving artist” myth or, “tales of suffering and tragedy” –those are limiting beliefs. A replacement intention might be: “I step into prosperity and physical and emotional and financial health and abundance and well-being.” And some experts suggest that writing in cursive has greater neurologic effects and therefore, greater effect at that relearning in the mind.
So, back to this idea of validation for your artistic craft: feedback about your creative work is important and ultimately you need to validate yourself. This is sometimes hard. I simply can’t imagine a better way to do that than by building this satisfaction from a consistent engagement with your artistic practice, with routine. This is the gauge, the measure and the accountability. This is the way to be ultimately, consistently successful. Or, to build momentum and not have this one foot in, one foot out.
And honestly, at the heart of all of this is just about mattering- “I matter, my voice matters, my feelings matter, my needs matter and my art matters.” Artists in general tend to not give enough credit to what they do because it’s a subjective validation and not an objective one. I personally was able to connect with this by engaging a “morning routine.” The moment my eyes open, I do a meditation to reset my mind. Then, it’s time to empty the doggies. Next, I engage the morning intention setting through journaling that is focused on patterns I want to change. Many health experts consider journaling to be a tool to help with mood as well as to help manage stress and depression. This creates better productivity, increases focus and ultimately positive results. My routine continues with some exercise, breakfast, and at my desk by 9:30 am in order to write. Through this consistent engagement with a morning routine, I was able to very quickly connect with this felt sense that I matter in this powerful way. I guess that’s why they call it empowerment.
If you would like to learn more about the mind and this potential for change, feel free to contact me about private sessions or group seminars to address your specific needs.
My name is Mary Moylan, as a corporate trainer and clinical hypnotherapist, one of my areas of expertise is in medical hypnosis. I’m going to talk to you today about the mind/ body connection and stress management and, how this may affect you- in your day to day life, and, in your work environment.
I focus on mind body/ integration for optimal health-and business success and I work both privately and within group sessions. I help people manage the mental and emotional challenges associated with for example, confronting the stress or pain of sudden change, or even personal loss, such as we have recently navigated with this pandemic.
I came into this meaningful training and counseling work during a challenging PhD program, when I encountered some of these stress related issues that I’m talking to you about today. Ultimately, this created some health issues that taught me the importance of not only dealing with the body directly but also the importance of integrating the mind and the emotions. In my career as a teacher and mental health counselor, I have assisted many people with these powerful tools and I enjoy helping to empower others. I help people build psychological momentum as we bring on board their mind and emotions to support their body and their behaviors.
Let’s take a moment to look at the impact of stress on our lives and in the workplace. We live in a world where overwork is overvalued. And, thanks to constantly changing company structure, the burden of needing to do more with fewer resources, longer work days and the advancement of technology, this stress is compounded. In a recent study about stress in the work environment from Stanford University, psychologists show that slow burning stress and negative emotions such as anger can literally kill us. And unfortunately, we see that this exists all too commonly in today’s business environments and corporate structures. Over time, “chronic stress” has been shown to be the number one enemy of success.
Further research has shown that more than 60% of employees in the U.S. report that they experience workplace stress for at least 4 days per week. And, what we know is, the impact of this stress is both human and financial for the employee and for the businesses that they work for. Have you ever experienced the pressure of an upcoming deadline? Have you experienced physical issues because of stress in your work environment, like issues with sleep, headache, stomach upset, blood pressure, cardio vascular issues? During stressful times or situations, people often blame themselves for being weak or for their inability “to handle it.”
According to a report from the National Institute For Occupational Safety and Health, job stress is rated higher than family or financial complaints. That work affects family, family affects work, which affects family…and the cycle continues. The key is to break that cycle! Are you self -employed? Or working from home? And do you experience burn-out? An inability to concentrate? Lack of motivation? poor decision making? These are all symptoms that can be related to chronic stress. Or even short term stress. As a business owner, in the work environment, you may see high absenteeism, labor turn over, poor performance and productivity, low morale,or poor motivation.
The American Psychological Association has established that excessive stress in the work environment can lead to unhealthy behaviors such as: over eating, or, eating an unhealthy diet, smoking cigarettes or abusing drugs and alcohol. In looking at these issues, it becomes obvious that employee wellness means business wellness. And time, energy and resources applied to the wellness of the employee becomes improvement in the bottom line of your organization.
Now, Let’s take a look at how the subconscious mind can help to change this. The most effective approach combines cognitive strategies and subconscious learning and reconditioning to establish new behaviors, new coping skills and ultimately the reduction and mitigation of stress for long term success. With subconscious therapies, we are addressing the potential unconscious ideas, beliefs, and emotions that often limit people from achieving optimal health and well-being- as it relates to their physical, mental and emotional health and to the health and effectiveness of you and your business. Hypnotherapy has been scientifically proven in clinical studies at major universities, including Stanford University, as a powerful mind/body therapy. Research conducted by David Spiegel, M.D., in the areas of hypnosis and brain body connections looked at the effects of hypnosis on control of somatic processes, specifically related to anxiety. The evidence indicates an important role for hypnosis in managing anxiety disorders and anxiety related to medical illness.
For the people that come to me for help or for group trainings, I support them with identifying and balancing psychological factors- such as fears, stress, negative thinking, worry and limiting beliefs. Because hypnotherapy is a tool for retraining the mind and the emotions, it allows us to replace these with greater calm, positive thoughts, emotions and behaviors. This includes follow through with the behaviors that support their health by engaging in the consistent management of their stress. In my individual and group trainings, people learn to identify and modify environmental, occupational, and lifestyle factors that are limiting their success and happiness in life. Many people don’t even know that they have a choice to feel a different way or to behave in a more empowered manner.
I truly enjoy my role as a guide in helping people To learn new behaviors and habits and to remove old programming and limiting beliefs that have held them back in their life. It’s such a purposeful experience, this role, motivating people. I look forward to helping you to overcome your limits for a more empowered, healthier and truly successful life.
My name is Mary Moylan, as a corporate trainer and speaker, I focus on aspects of mental and emotional success. In this blog, I’m going to talk to you about how you can learn the subconscious aspects of greater business empowerment.
Much of the existing coaching and leadership training available in the business and corporate world offer cognitive approaches and tools that are important but are only one aspect of the change that people are seeking. What we are really interested in doing is engaging motivation and it is my experience and my understanding that this is not accomplished by limiting the focus on cognitive strategies alone.
And, understanding how the subconscious approach differs from the conscious approach is key:
1. we understand that people consciously are working from the programming that begins in their beliefs, and often times people’s beliefs are from a time in their life when maybe they did not have as much knowledge as they do now. People often work from a level of confidence they learned in the past that doesn’t reflect where they are today. So, we can help someone take the intellectual knowledge that “I am very good at what I do” and we can understand how to help in whatever area of specialty they are in, and get them to really feel that and change that underlying belief that may be causing limits in their life.
Because I work with the subconscious mind and not only in the conscious/cognitive processes, we are actually addressing the limiting ideas that exist in their life, in a different level of the mind. We go to the core where that issue exists, or where that programing is causing that lack of understanding or communication and we are changing it there. This is often a more effective and a more rapid approach to change and because of that, we get really good results.
In an online training, I will show you where you are being limited in terms of achievement or goals, why you are being limited and then what, in a simple way you can begin to do to free yourselves from that limitation. With some simple yet powerful tools, such as self-hypnosis, for example, you will learn to engage these changes that you seek and then be able to implement the changes for long term success.
I love doing this work because I can affect a lot of people in a really important way and help them to be more successful, whether that is with individuals in a business or if that is with leaders leading a business as with executive leadership, management training, performance and fulfillment of potential, and within learning and training contexts. To be able to learn these skills and these tools, and to be able to apply them on a consistent basis, it can be life changing.
It’s about communicating with people and understanding how they talk and how they hear and how we can go into a situation when we may have in the past had a lot of stress or even fears about succeeding in certain ways and removing those and replacing it with confidence “I can do this” and engage in that motivation. These are transformative changes in a person’s life that can affect them in a wonderful way.
This is what we do- so whether its corporate communications or helping people with certain aspects of their physical health or their mental well- being, we have great tools. And I know they work, because they worked for me and for others that I have engaged in this process.
So, I want to bring this process, this learning tool that is not as well- known as it should be into an environment where I can help more people than just one on one.
Regardless of how successful a person has been in their profession or in leading an organization, everyone has potential that they have not been able to quite get themselves to achieve, sometimes they are aware of this, and sometimes they are not. But ultimately, if we are working towards peak performance, it means refining and removing limiting beliefs so that they can move to the highest level possible of whatever their endeavor is. Whether it is an action in a given moment or whether it’s a longer term goal. We are unraveling the beliefs that may be limiting that individual from achieving a greater success.
It’s about setting higher goals that may be outside their limiting beliefs of achieving them. Regardless of who we are, there are limits we place on ourselves, that do not need to be there. We need to move beyond them, we’ve got to get out of our programming that is causing that and, the programming isn’t in the conscious mind, it’s subconsciously learned just the way fears are learned.
Within many business training and leadership contexts, for example- if we consider improving performance and fulfilling potential, this often involves learning refined communication strategies as well as stress management education. In business or corporate environments it is really common that specific types of problems in communication can occur and this is because people don’t always hear what it is you are trying to get across to them. And we have all had the experience where we have said something to someone and they have experienced or taken it in or heard something very different, haven’t we?
Communication consists of three parts that we are going to look at:
The words we use, body language and the state of mind of the receiver. And this is the part that we don’t focus on or are not aware of and this is where you can make the difference. The truth is we don’t all hear the same way or process information the same way. Some people process more literally and directly and others take the information and look for the meaning behind the words and they will infer meaning. And this is why everyone of you watching this or reading this- at times, have said something to someone and they heard something very different because they processed it differently. They took it to mean something other than what you meant it to mean.
When we know about this deeper aspect of communication and when we can understand about how different people communicate in different ways- we can modify our communication to create better rapport, and in rapport we have greater effectiveness and efficiency, and teams that work better together. So learning that is important and I can teach you how. Learning about how to communicate and understand how different people respond differently is about creating balance and cooperation and greater efficiency and effectiveness –in any environment, including the work environment or in your profession.
As a corporate trainer, speaker and mental health counselor, I focus on stress management tools, and today, I’m going to talk to you about how to manage stress more effectively. When we are stressed, most people don’t have good coping mechanisms to deal with it. So, I’m going to teach you a simple yet very effective coping mechanism that can literally change the way you function as you go about your day to day life so you don’t end up at the end of your day with stress built up, that you have to process when you sleep at night.
Think about how great it would be when you get to the end of your day and instead of going to sleep with this huge bulk of stress that has to be managed, what if you’re pouring some of it out all day long and now you only have to manage much less, how much more rest and restoration could you achieve? Considerable amounts. And, I’m going to teach you how to do that. I’m going to introduce you to a breathing technique, that when we strengthen it with hypnosis it becomes a more powerful tool for stress relief and self- control . There are many simple breathing techniques you can do, but we are able to make it a stronger more effective tool by reinforcing it with the hypnotic state.
And, to understand this tool- it begins with a simple model of the mind:
One thing we know is stress activates the sympathetic nervous system-and triggers the fight flight response. Engaging a simple but powerful breathing technique combined with hypnosis can quickly allow you to activate the parasympathetic nervous system that in turn, triggers a healthy immune response and a calming mechanism.
So follow along with me, and let’s experience how we can shift our emotions and our feelings in the body and you can see how- in just a few short moments, you can begin to change the way you feel. This breathing technique will help you-and, with my clients, when I work with them and I use hypnosis- it helps them to reinforce and strengthen the benefits considerably. But this will help you even on your own…
The key to this breathing technique is, exhaling twice as long as the inhale:
So, we will choose a count of 3,pause,6
As you begin- inhale for the count of 3 through your nose and imagine the word calm
As you pause the breath -imagine you are absorbing the calm into every cell and every fiber of your being
And as you exhale for the count of 6 out of your mouth- imagine you are releasing pressure, tension and stress
And we begin this cycle of calming and releasing
Inhale calm for 3
Absorb the calm, into every cell every fiber
Exhale tension pressure and stress for 6
And, repeat for one more round
Remember to only use this cycle for 3 or 4 rounds
Now your focus is more in alignment with you being the happy healthy balanced and empowered person that you choose to be. And, keep in mind when you take these steps to manage stress, and then you reinforce them with a tool like hypnosis, you can make them even more powerful, because we anchor it to subconscious reconditioning. Now you’re able to shift into a wonderfully receptive state of mind in order to achieve the change that you are seeking and ultimately, a life that you love!
And for more information about that, contact me at: info@Marymoylanhypnotherapy.com